My W told me the other day that I'm her favorite person to dance with. I was surprised by this, as she complains a great deal if she doesn't get asked to dance much when we're out socially. My impression is that my W keeps intimate thoughts to herself, and lets them out like a drop of water. I'm the same way, which partially explains the pace of our Piecing phase.
She was complaining about our weekly ballroom venue. I told her that I have to practice ballroom dancing at least weekly. It doesn't matter where. I gave her the option of an alternative venue or staying at home, while I went out to practice. When it came time to make a decision, she chose to stay at our current venue, stating that she would make the best of it. I was willing to go without her, and she knew it.
She is taking steps to improve her eating habits. She is probably 20 pounds overweight. She is going to start recording what she eats. I could tell she's serious about addressing this problem. She has been researching calories and fat grams. She also has begun going with me weekly to Pilates or Yoga.
I keep practicing the "Holding onto Yourself" concept. It releases me from being overly involved in her problems, and forces her to struggle and problem-solve. Her struggling has moved her towards being proactive with certain problem situations--not getting enough guys to ask her to dance, improving her eating habits.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
