While it seems like people are ganging up on you? They really are trying to help you.
A failed marriage is seldom ever one sided. While you take responsibility for some of it, good, are you taking responsibility for your fair share of it?
When you hang out here long enough...its like an AA meeting, you become pretty certain of of what a person is or isn't REALLY saying despite the words that are coming out of their mouth. Like how you know someones story and the problems they are facing or not facing...intentionally.
A person who is busy defending themselves...isn't really listening. They are arguing.
If there is no basis or reason to defend yourself? You don't even have to.
Anything that stings/bugs you? You owe it to yourself to examine, and figure out why it bothers you. Not lash out.
If you call me fat? And I wasn't ok with it? I'd be mad at you...because I'm mad at myself, for being fat.
If I'm ok with it? No problem.
If I'm not ok with it but I'm doing something about it? No problem either.
If I'm skinny? No problem because there is no basis.
On that note...or those notes.
Certain things draw attention here and defending actions/habit/insert something is one of them.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
