Sorry, Starsky, I was responding to an earlier post by Angel.
I think your hypothetical question is, like most hypothetical questions, not particularly true to real life.
OK, care to comment on my real-life example then?
And I'm sorry, but I have noticed a DIRECT correlation -- in PRACTICE -- to the more passive approaches leading people to have very weak (or non-existent) boundaries. No, it SHOULDN'T be that way, but the one set of behavior seems to correspond to the other.
I'm speaking generally, not just about Angel. People take sound MWD principles from her books, and think that a "180" means "going out drinking with the guys," and that "dropping the rope" means "letting their wayward spouse walk all over them."
I AGREE with you that, if done properly, there's no reason why you can't simultaneously detach yourself from the other person's outcomes, while still enforcing your own strong personal boundaries, however.
