Going around in circles

[angel61]

"We can only control what we will allow them to do to us when we're in ours"

I don't think you know the meaning of "let go". Letting go, dropping the rope, detaching - means that whatever they do will no longer affect you.

And if you wish to leave,it because its your choice and not because of something they do.

And that is when they realize that they no longer have power over you.