Again, for those who are reading along and keeping score saying, "my spouse is doing that" and stuff...
Here's the reality of it... the stuff that a MLCer goes through is both "natural" and "human"... IOW, just because your spouse is avoiding talking to you does not make them MLC... just because they start partying, does not make them MLC... just because they have an OP, does not make them MLC... and just because they are avoiding the "tough work" does not make them MLC...
Even while they might appear "confused" about wanting to D... does not make them MLC...
A WAS has had enough with their life... with the status quo... They could very well be entering the more benign (albeit also life changing) sister to MLC, known as a life transition...
The WAS may very well be looking to remake themselves... and while confused as to whether they want to include their spouse in that equation...
They TOO need to GO THROUGH the transition...
And while they may be confused at times... they may not be rushing the D... they may be emotional... even with violent outbursts and spew...
Well... maybe I just described low energy MLCers...
But with someone in transition, they tend to be able to stay more in their logical mind... things... actions... language... it "makes sense" in some ways... and they may not be opposed to talking about it... how they feel... what's bothering them, in a more calm and consistent manner...
They will avoid if something is uncomfortable...
but they are probably less likely to lash out at those who love them... their empathy chip... it's most like still, for the most part, working...
