not all MLCers are that way. Often, the MLC is more subtle. The MLCer more high functioning (ie. only behaves in crazy making ways in front of the LBS, but otherwise works and socializes as though nothing is wrong)
the LBS and others might think the LBS is the one that's gone off the deep end... (not planned by the MLCer; just an artefact in some cases)
i'm pretty sure that in h's case, it's the opposite - people seem to be seeing through his persona more and more. and even now after all these months, i have people whom we don't know as more than acquaintances asking me what is up with him and his mustache. the mustache is the equivalent of the tattoo here - it is off the wall! on the other hand, even while i'm standing there crying to a friend, all they are saying to me is that they've never seen anyone become who i've become during this kind of crisis, just telling me how in awe they are of what i am capable of, how present i am and how amazingly i am doing
And in other cases the MLCer might be more high energy, so gets a full body tattoo, or a nice red, convertible sport car, or starts going on lots of expensive trips by themselves or quit their job to go do mission work in Hawaii...
So to repeat... there's nothing that the LBS DOES that makes a "noticeable" difference in the MLCer... DURING the main, prominent time of the MLC... the work the LBS does will reap rewards (hopefully) and be noticeable in the MLCer as the MLC starts to wind down...
Read up on the stages of MLC if you want to understand what signs you might be looking for in regards to "baby steps"... but understand that what ever work you do now, regardless of whether the M survives, will have a positive impact on yourself, your family, and yes... even your H... whether MLC or not...
i really really understand this now - after all these months, KD - am really getting a grip on the whole concept of what my real, integral role is here
it's time for me to go reread the stages of MLC- and for me to apply the recipe - in a more wholehearted way.
thanksKD - i love talking with you - you are so grounded where you are, and i know that right now i'm still needing to suck that from external sources, until i am more grounded within myself
zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
