Amen, Starsky. I wish I had listened to the wisdom on these boards the first time around. I was so desperate to have my H back that I practically rolled out the red carpet for him, expecting were little in return
Nearly everyone does. I made a bunch o' mistakes in my own sitch, too (letting my wife make one more, final "closure" phone call to OM, for example ... blcccch! -- that led to another six weeks of contact!). That's what's great about these forums, that people can come back and "pay it forward" and try to help others avoid our stupid mistakes!
