WH it sounds like you are in a good place to recognize that neither of you were happy before the bomb. I think that is common to a lot of our respective situations. I'm sure that what you are mourning now was not fake at all. It was just a different time, kind of a different life.
I think "Spiraling Upward" is an amazing metaphor (seriously, when I think of what it means it almost makes me feel stronger just aspiring to be able to do that) and would make a great new thread title
