shockeddad, Welcome to the board. I think you'll find it's one of the best places to be for one of the worst situations to be in. I am sorry to hear about your situation.
Good for you for seeking help with your issues with you not feeling like you were living your best life.
I've certainly heard a lot of the same things from my W you've heard.
Now is the time to really focus on yourself. Be there for your boys. Become the best father and man you can become. You can't control what your W is doing.
Cut any pursuing, ILYs, etc. It's just going to remind your W of the feelings she doesn't have right now.
Post with short posts and post often. We're here to help. You will be on moderation for awhile so your posts won't show up right away.
