1. I believe the point being made was that you should work on YOU. 2. The problem with your25 y.o. Is that you've been using her and lying to her and probably W about what is going on. 3. If your W forbid contact with her children, why are you going behind her back? 4. You continue to mnimize your abuse. 5. Stop pursuing your W. Why don't you spend the anniversary at AA and discuss making amends and owning the harm you've done.
I assume I was right about the partying with the 25 y.o. as you avoided the question. How does that fit with sobriety?
In general, you seem to have low self-esteem and seek women who you think little of who should be grateful for what you have to offer. "hey, I don't beat her, I verbally abuse her. Hey, I may ignore the kids, but I give them money. Hey, I'm a self-interested tool who looks down on my w, but look at her body that I had to fix, she's lucky to get any man to do her. She's damged goods after all "rape" yeah right, she was a little tramp begging for it. She's an idiot to leave the best she'll ever get."
You may not feel that way. But that is what your actions and words communicate. That is why you are repelling women on these boards.
Until you work on yourself, that is not going to change. These attitudes,actions, behavior predate your R with W. They have nothing to do with her or your M.
