Wife says it's to far gone

[shockeddad]

Hello, this is something very new for me. I’m not one who talks to people about my problems. But, I have realized that I can’t do this alone. I’m a father of two boys; one is 3 the other 5. I have been with my wife for 13 years; we will be married for 7 years in June. I worked multiple jobs, one at a hospital, fire department, and also going to college. Back in November I told my wife that I needed to go see someone because I was having a hard time dealing with a fatal fire I had and that I didn’t think I was living my life to the best. She at the same time said that she was not happy and had been trying to figure out how to make it as a single mom. That took me by surprise. At the same time I was wondering if she was getting to close to a friend of ours that she was working with and that we had over to visit a lot. She said it was just someone she could talk to. So, the next month or so I tried to be more of a father and loving husband. I thought things where getting better but on December 27th, she told me that the M was to far gone and that it could not be fixed. We started counseling in January, but Monday she said she wanted a D. It has been a rollercoaster the whole time. I have read many books and so has she. I wish I would have come here sooner. I think I have just pushed her father away by doing all the things that the book says not to do. We also found out about three or four weeks ago she has been talking to are so called friend 10 to 15 times a day and hours at time. She has shut her whole family out, except her brother and his new wife, who likes drama. She has been living with them since February. The sister-in-law told me if that was her, she would have filed for divorce already, don’t think she is helping things. I once told my W that everything I try blows up in my face, she said that this whole thing has blown up in her face since the start. We think she thought that the family was going to be on her side and support her, but that’s not the case. Yesterday I decide that I was going to GAL, I still want the M to work. I love her more than ever. But, nothing is working. Time for some space and tough love. I texted her yesterday and said “I respect you very much. You know how I feel about you and this. If you truly think that a D is the best thing, then I will not fight you. I want to have a great friendship for us and the boys. I hope and pray that we can still work this out.