i'd like to start a discussion here and hope that lots of people will join in and give their opinions, especially the vets.

There is a lot of discussion and observations about how the MLC spouse is manipulative and controlling.

On the other hand there is a lot of encouragement to watch for the baby steps and use those to monitor the progress of one's sitch.

so my question is:

How does one distinguish between it just being the control or manipulation and an actual baby step?

thanks
zig

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"