First I want to thank you as I had my first DB Coaching session with Cheryl and it was just so good to let it all out! It was also uplifting to feel like I am not crazy for still wanting this marriage. She gave me some advice and as she said it doesnt seem like the 'natural' response, but its the way to go for DBing.
I have been reading these postes almost manically for the past three day, almost hopeful, always fearful of what i will read. I feel like a fool sometimes for wanting to hold on to hope. My H has been gone so long it seems. Physically, mentally and emotonally. He moved out in October 2010 (less than a month after his father passed away-his mother passed away when he was 14) and several months after he told me that he didnt want me anymore. Yes, we have two young kids, yes he was having an EA with OW and yes, he is now having a full fledged affair with her. She has been involved in our marriage longer than I knew.
Yes, he wants a D, he is unhappy with me, etc. I know this is the same story, different post. And for awhile I did think it was only my story. Only his story. But i know now its not. Its all of our stories. I hope to find some much needed relief here. Hope. and security for my family. I hope to offer support as well to you. I messed up. I suffocated him when he asked for space. I did not get that at first. Now I do. I am still learning to let go, aware that this is the only chance for hope. I want my H back. I want my family back. Only you understand that.
I thought i tried everything and then I found this website. I wuold like to think that there is a good reason for that.
I look forward tpo getting to know you.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
