Yep! They think if they're the one earning the money, then they're the one doing everything. Once you are gone, he will realize what you actually did for him. This is typical MLC --- rewriting history, even the immediate history of a couple of days. Then they try and make you feel like you're going insane. This why I like to journal here, so that my H can't tell me what was said ... I can go back to my journaling.
Good idea to go dark on him. It's doable ... I did it for weeks at a time, even when H was working at home. Again, financial talk should be directed to the lawyers.
Take care, Wendy.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim