What I can't control is XW's feelings for me or my love life in general. I can't make someone want me -- and that still hurts.
Yep. That stuff does hurt. When you think about it though....it makes sense to be with someone who WANTS to be with you, and stop chasing anyone who doesn't. Doesn't that make sense? A lot of our misery is created by the activity of the mind. I, like you, love a woman who doesn't love me anymore. I think I have to accept that, as hurtful as it is...and stop 'resisting' it. Resisting only causes suffering...that's s fact. We want what we don't have. Seems like if we want what we DO have...we'll always have what we want! Maybe a little Zen...but there is, I believe, A LOT to be said for 'accepting' whatever...might as well accept it.,.because resisting it only causes more suffering.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
