Your W's friend's opinion of the situation should only be considered if its helpful to YOUR coping with the situation. If it helps you get over an emotional hump then good.

I had experiences where friends supporting me immensely early in the sitch eventually lost patience. They started to give me reasons why W left for OM and it actually put me in a worse emotional place.

Concentrating on her reasons from a place of blame is not concentrating on YOU. This will not help you move forward towards GAL. Once focus is on you, a much bigger picture will become apparent

H 34 W 27
M 9mth T 8
Separated 1/'12 ILYBNILWY
OM 2/'12