Wow MrBond...I believe you've hit the nail on the head. It mirrors my sitch as well and it's great advise. We cannot control anything but ourselves. I, too, feel as Hoping does about my W and you are dead on. I am taking responsibility for my actions and my wife isn't...she never really has, going back to our first separation. She was expecting me to be perfect and to be responsible for her happiness and when things got tough again it was just the reaosn for her to make excuses and take the easy way out.
Sorry Hoping, I know this is your thread but our sitch's are pretty similar as far as our Ws are concerned and I think it may help you hearing from someone else sort of in the same boat.
Hang in there man...but you do need to allow her to find all this out on her own...and if she doesn't then do you really want her back? Nothing will improve until you are both honest with yourselves and focus on you...only then will a R have a chance to truly succeed.
Me:44, W: 39 D:16, D:14, D:11(special needs) M:17, T:21+ Bomb:3/18/12 W contacted mediator for D:3/27/12 Separate since bomb Mediation, signed agreement 5/17/12 No talk of D since mediation
