not enought time and too much distance

[~ kd ~]

I'm seriously putting Brit45 up on a pedestal, but I think (especially as a WAS who is now wanting to R) that her list (like Sandi2's 37 rules) is an AWESOME basis on how to be a friend.

I think your W (like most of our spouses) believes she wants to be friends. And I think that is a great thing for us to do and I suspect that's how you want to come across, AC. Unless your motivations really were something different to have offered her to stay at your place.

He said I was his best friend and we would always be friends. So here's my rules to be his friend:

+ Friends don't sabotage the other's relationships.
+ Friends don't flirt with each other.
+ Friends don't sleep with each other.
+ Friends want the best for that person.
+ They're happy for the other's achievements.
+ Friends aren't jealous of one another.
+ Friends don't have an agenda.
+ Friends don't try to push their wishes/hopes/dreams/opinions onto that of the other.
+ A Friend listens more than talks.
+ A friend tries to understand where you're coming from instead of telling you why you're wrong.
+ A friend never says I told you so.