Thanks snodderly & kaffe Diem, I so needed to hear again that I DID NOT BREAK HIM. I am practicing "H I am sorry you feel that way".
Kaffe - I have tried to keep our conversations to email. And on the phone he gave me a choice if we should have the conversation in person or via email, I choose email. (Now of course he doesnt like what I choose)
Snodderly, I am amazed at how well you seem to get my H from that 1 email. He totally has some childhood father issues that he is burying. My H crisis started when his brother wife was diagnosed with cancer. I think it triggered many childhood feelings especially since his mother sister died of cancer when he was 10.
Also thank you for mentioning that his empathy chip has turned off. Its so weird interacting with him, he is like a zombie. Now that we have a schedule and the kids go to his house every other weekend, each good bye for me is somewhat emotional (though I dont let the kids see that) - my H acts like its no big whoop. Handing the little ones back and forth should be no big deal. I hate it. I am working on getting over that hate since its now a part of my life but my kids are little. My D2 is still such a little baby, who calls for her mama.
For a while my DB coach was telling me to be friends with him. I dont think that is working. I have continued to be pleasant but in the beginning of April stopped being friends. He does not like that.
