You knew she was in med school, right? And that there was a chance her residency would be in a different state?
Do you feel she intentionally chose to go to a different state to spite you?
Of course. Even before we got together, I knew that we could potentially move a lot. She eventually wanted to be a full-time medical missions doctor, and I was very down with that (I come from a travelling, mission-minded family as well).
Fast forward to the present: She DID apply to hospitals in different states, including California. But coincidentally, the hospital she did her internship last year in SC is the same one that hired her onto their residency program.
So I don't think she did it to spite me, but I feel like she pushed harder and tried to make a greater impression(in terms of interviewing) at that location compared to others. Of course, that's speculation.
To sum it up, when we were together, I was willing to move anywhere with her. Our naivete assumed that my Asian-earned engineering degree will get me work anywhere to, but I was so wrong. That proved to be huge roadblock and part of the reason for our relationship rift. My wife still has this opinion that I can obtain (engineering) work anywhere, but that my low work ethic just refuses to.
With my career more settled now, I don't want to transplant myself again and start from scratch.
