How is it affecting your son negatively? Having 2 warring parents is probably the worst situation in which to raise a child.
Well, first off when a parent says that they want THE best for their child, what do they mean by that? How far would they go as an adult, as a parent to achieve that?
I know it's moot to rant about my wife, but all this "control" sentences are exactly that - rants. So please bear with me. To wit, I think it's contradictory when she/we want the best for our son, but is willing to decide tear a child relationship apart from not just our family, but all our son's satellite relationships/bonds, such as my/her family, church family, etc.
Yes, he still has these relationships, but that not how nature intends (let alone God's will) for children, moms and dads to live their lives.
As a matter of fact, the warring parents comment was brought up by my wife last night too. I just responded that we both made mistakes, but if we say that E our son is the most important thing to us, we are adults who should be able to stop, take a breath, sit down and communicate. Even though it was in my mind, I didn't tell her that communicating is what we used to do. I also didn't tell her that the majority of the warring only started when she had one foot out the door. Also I could've told her that the warring was centered around porn (which included the lies and anger); we weren't a couple that were never meant to be (like she and some others would declare), it's just that my addiction (and her not-to-be-taken-lightly baggage) got in the way.
