2) I have sent pictures of myself with the OW to my wife in the heat of argument within the past two months. Given our comm's I assume she is still seeing someone to some degree, and she should assume the same of me. I don't see how I am involved in a PA when she fired me with the separation papers. I wanted to avoid this scenario all along and work on our marriage, she has not.
Originally Posted By: Broken74
3) Although I wasn't the best (REMINDER I HAD NO EXPERIENCE), I have been the best father figure those children have ever had. I helped with homework, I played with them frequently, I took them places and did things with them they had never experienced. I am doing what I think is right by them because I am their stepfather. If my W divorces me, I will no longer be their stepfather. Some people on here say they will continue to persue their relationship after D. I will not be doing that. I could be friends with my first ex-wife, because I never truly loved her. If we get D, I will likely sever all ties and not speak to her/them again. I wouldn't be able to deal with the pain. Through this experience I know I want to be a father and positive influence in a child's life. If she divorces me that money will going into a fund with for my future child.
I think you REALLY need to think about the questions OT has asked you previously and your honest answers. Because your actions do not line up with those.
I had no experience myself when I became a stepmother. But I love my stepson with all I have. And I can tell you right now, if his father and I do D, I will NOT be letting that stop me from having a relationship with him. No I may not be his stepmother anymore, but I value my relationship with him too much to just throw it away because his dad and I couldn't work things out. (Especially since you say you are the "best" father figure they've had.)
I also think you REALLY need to think about your motivation for wanting to save your marriage. Because if you can give up your relationship with your stepchildren so easily, and be involved in a PA (technically you're still M, regardless of what your WAS is doing) it makes me think you're not serious about your wife or them.
