My FIL was a doozy for a while, too. I just tried to be nice. He was a real charmer after awhile. When we'd visit, he and I would stay up late watching the late oldies. I spent several weekends with him, too without H or kids. All in all, I worked it out with both of them and truly was able to enjoy them. My H had real childhood issues with them, they still raise their ugly head occasionally. Since your H is in therapy, thank God he is willing to work on those issues. Just be your nice, sweet self with FIL.
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
