You are crowding her for your own reasons. The crisis with her sister has gone on for less than 48 hours. I don't think you needed to tear up the check and impose a gift on W that she did not ask for (and tell me again how you don't equate money with love?). She asked for help to get her sister flowers from her. Stop trying to invade the family space. Quit burdening her with having to manage you and with having to keep turning you down.
A few questions:
(1) Why do you persist in lying about forgetting your anniversary. In fact, you did forget it.
(2) Is W aware that you are involved in a sexual relationship with a very young woman who you claim is better for you than W? I doubt that she would be involving you in her family life if she did. It is really kind of a gross feeling to watch her reach out to you while you are involved in a PA that she doesn't know about.
(3) How does contributing money to college funds of children you have not really parented and who you've known a very short time because you love them amount to "unconditional love" when it ends with D?
