I must have missed your post about your FIL... and NO, I don't want a new friend!
I must admit that there have been a few times in the past year when I've been tempted to write a little letter to my mommy-in-law dearest, but decided against it.
Primary reason? She's Mr. Wonderful's mother. And although he has spent our entire marriage defending me, I don't want to put him in the position of having to do this because I've taken action.
Secondary reason? Nothing I say will change her feelings about me, nor will I make any progress with her. In fact, I can honestly guarantee getting a letter back from her identifying all my transgressions in spades.
Ironically, I came across a letter from her to Mr. W. 2 nights ago (when clearing out tax files). He had received it in response to a letter he had written to her after his 40th birthday party fiasco. He had given me the green light to read it then but told me it was going to hurt like hell and recommended me not reading it.
I was tempted for about a second, but I realized that I don't need any latent dings in my PMA armour, and even considering the source, I couldn't muster up enough in my reserve tank to do it.
If your FIL fits in that same category, I'll recommend that course of action. And then we can figure out together how to forgive those people. Who, ironically, gave birth to the men we know and love.
Sorry for my delay!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
