The time to have done it would have been when he asked back into the marriage and the home. "OK, but I'm afraid it's not that simple anymore. These are the things I would need," and then you let them know what your boundaries and dealbreakers are.
Were there ANY consequences for his waywardness? Or did you simply take him back?
Starsky
Oh, I've said it enough times. And we didn't have an "official" homecoming thing or anything. He just got back from his 2 week trip and was different. His TM while away were increasing, too. So maybe he got a chance to think and miss me? Who knows.
I also received flowers from a friend the week he came back. He went a little crazy thinking they were from a guy. A few days later, he came home with flowers, too.
He says there's nothing between him and OW now. Even if it is true today, he crossed the line and there is no turning back. He said he doesn't "un-friend" people, and that it would be "weird". He also brings up that I was in contact with my ex-bf, and thinks this is the same kind of situation. Whenever I've brought this us, he either just doesn't respond at all (which drives me nuts), or will tell me to let it go.
All I know is that at some point he will need to respect my feelings, even if he doesn't agree. The day will come (soon), and he will need to make a decision.
