I dont think I made things overly clear in my initial post but my ex gf and I are not married - we are in a LRT with 2 young children (although I hope the same principles apply with regards to the DB techniques!!).
I had a major backslide this week and was then told by my ex gf that she had been asked out on a date by someone at work - but she had said no.
I will be honest this has rocked me to my core, I have been casually dating as a way of rebuilding my self esteem but all this has served to do is to confirm that I dont want to move on.
I am trying so desperately not to panic, as she has initially said no, but after finding out I had been on a date with someone she said she now may go out with this guy. :-(
I really want her to give me the chance to prove that I can make the changes but at the moment she just says that we are done and in the short term she cannot see how she can regain her feelings for me.
We had a long talk last night and she is just as devastated as I am about the family being broken up, about having to contend with difficult questions from our D4 and S7 - it breaks her heart as much as it does mine it seems, yet she still wont open up to the thought of us trying again.
Prior to my backslide I had made positive changes and had lasted about 10 days - she commented that she had noticed the changes and was glad I had stepped up, and she was glad that we could get on for the kids sake - but it is so hard for me to remain this way when I feel like I am about to lose her to the first guy that comes along.
FYI - I have now promised myself not to date or see other people until I know in my heart it is over.
I can see where I have gone wrong and desperately want to prove to her that I know I have let her down.
Despite her telling me it is over, I can see she is hurting as much as I am in certain aspects that our family has broken down - "I never wanted my kids to come from a broken home" - and I cannot let go of the belief / hope that we can figure this out.
What should I do - and how do I deal with the fact that she may date someone else?
