I think the amount of content you still spend on your wife and your perception of all her flaws, is a waste of time.
You still do it, and you judge her and condemn her and then ask how YOU "can help someone so insecure"...as if that's really your goal.
The minute you realze the only focus of yours ought to be on you
is the minute real growth will happen. I have not seen much.
I totally agree w/ 25 here Snow. You do not need to spend time or worry about how to help your w. Let her go, that is the only way she will truly find herself.
It took me a long time to get that and I still have some work to do but I have experienced some drastic changes in myself and my w when I truly let go.
This time is for you Snow. This is an opportunity of a life time to really find out what you are all about and to start becoming the man you want to be and have the life you want to have.
