Thanks for the kind words, hoping. I appreciate the good thoughts.
You asked when I felt things became distant between H and I...if I had to try and pinpoint, I'd say around the time I went back to school. So, about 6 years ago or so. Ironically, that was also around the same time we bought our house. It was an understandably stressful time, plus the house was a fixer-upper and we moved in with my parents for about 8 months while the house was being remodeled.
I'm ashamed to say I really can't remember the last time we talked about our future together. Weirdly, it may very well have been around the time we were making plans to move into the house? Its as though once that was accomplished, we stopped focusing on things as a couple.
This is one of the things H actually commented on during our separation discussion last week. He mentioned how he felt we never did anything as a couple or established goals together anymore. I don't disagree. I guess I'm not entirely sure why it turned out that way...its as though its easier to say "Oh, we just grew apart, in different directions, etc." On the surface, sure, that makes some sense. But I have a hard time accepting it.
M-40 H-39 M- 12 years T- 20 years Separation: 5-8-12; H says he wants to pursue divorce
I appreciate the good thoughts.
