Pma,
Hello I just read your thread your posts only.
You are doing very very well.
No need to blame either affair on anyone.
They are over and you and H are definetly headed in the right direction.
What an excellent example you both are being to your three boys!!!
My H & I are now in our 24th year of marriage.
I left him 2 years ago.
Then we started piecing on my terms.
7 months of that and he had an affair with a OW who was also having a 6 yr R with a Married friend we had known for ever!
Sound like Jerry Springer Yet???

Anyway read all the books you can about R's & Affairs

I'm proud of you both!!!

Kim


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