am i better off without him?

[scaredsilly]

also, we've had dinners together and lunches several times. he sends me texts each day about different things, nothing very intimate. i sent him a quote about loneliness and he let lose on me about how i did not go out of town with him for two years when he made his six-month trips (home on weekends). he took it down to minutes we spent together.

since then, i've backed off a bit because i'm done blaming and won't accept anymore or go back to the past. we've discussed everything i did to make the marriage fail (not really his part because that's up to him) and i've apologized and made changes.

since that email response of his, i've also asked him again to think about counseling for the pain he appears to be in and he's agreed...again. this time he said he called last friday and left a message for a return call about appointments.

i think i'm changing and moving forward and i really can't dwell in the past and deal with negative energy, from him or his family. i'm very sad about our marriage situation but, at the same time, it's come to me that without changes on his part (more maturity, less self pity, more thoughts about his partner's needs)we would not be able to make it together. i'm hoping he will get counseling and that will help him but it may not.