Any chance to make it work? I need advice

[sweetbabyred]

Thanks Maggie and Vera! I'm still not sure how I did it with all the stress the past few months.

H just got let go from his job yesterday so I'm sure he's going to get worse before he gets better. I really want to be committed to DB, but I don't want him to feel completely abandoned. He knows the people he's hanging out with aren't good for him, but he really doesn't think he deserves better right now.

After work, I stopped by the library to check out all of the books I could find on men and depression, as well as one on midlife crises. Maggie, if I find anything useful or a really good book, I'll let you know.

Right now I'm trying to convince him to go and visit his family. He doesn't do well with too much free time on his own at the best of times, and with the house on the market, he won't have any home projects to keep him busy. So he'll either sit at home and feel worse, or go to the bars, hang out with the wrong crowd, and drink too much, which will also make him feel worse.

I think that being home and keeping busy with the family would take his mind off of everything. And I know his mom would feel a lot better if she could talk to him in person.

On the good side, H does have an appointment with a counselor or psychiatrist (not sure exactly which) tomorrow morning, so at least he recognizes that he's not in the right state of mind now. I just know it can't be fixed instantly, but at least I have some hope since he's making an effort.

As much as I'd like to save our marriage, my current focus is just making sure he saves himself. Anything else will be a blessing.