I am new here, have been reading the forums for couple of weeks now.My W of 21 yrs tells me shes not happy in our R.I am shocked she feels this way.I had felt things where going down hill for few months now but had no idea she felt.Her mom has cancer and recieved new liver 2 yrs ago and recently her best friend and asst at work was diagnosed with late stage pancreatic cancer, I thought it was this taking its toll on her.
I am human and have made mistakes in our M.She said I make her feel unimportant and like her opinions dont count.I had no idea that I was doing this,she said im silent and withdrawn, this i can relate to and am working to do better.She tells me she doest know if she has anything left to work on our M. We have 3 children 10 and under who think life is perfect.They have never witnessed anythig between us but low grade anger.W wanterd to seperate when she told me, we talked for long time that night.My impression was that next day we would tell kids and i would leave.Next morning she said she wanted things we talked about, family vacations, 2 parent home, family life.Asked if I could stay and give her space and act as "roommates".That was 3 weeks ago everything seems ok , no fighting pleasent atmosphere no itimacy.I have got DR and have been doing 180's, being more helpful, letting W know if im gonna be late, ingaging in conversation.also i got the ILYBANILWY also I am sure there is not OM involved as i know wher she is 99% of the time . More later
