I am thinking of the same thing - interested in someone I've known for a few years. I want my W dearly and really want to R but she says it's definitely over and our mediation is in 2 days. I still believe that some day we will come back together but that is the farthest thing from her mind right now and I don't want to be a sap sitting around waiting for something that's never going to happen. I can't think of being with someone else but I also hate being alone...if anything, just someone I can talk to. Argh...it's so hard, this thing called life! It's not fair to OW...but, if my W says it's over...I have to move on, right? And if I have a chance with OW...much younger also may I add... blush...why not?

I KNOW the answer...it isn't fair to OW...it isn't fair to W...and it isn't really fair to me either. I know I have to continue to work on myself, to feel completely comfortable with my surroundings before I can even think of OW. A friend of mine who is D told me that I should take a good year before I consider dating gain...WHAT?! cry I know he's probably right...and I hope my W does so as well...because she has yet to truly focus on herself...and it would only do her good. And yes, me too... Just don't know if I'll have the strength to do so. Man...am I a mess about this subject...sorry broken, I'm no help for you whatsoever. confused

Me:44, W: 39
D:16, D:14, D:11(special needs)
M:17, T:21+
Bomb:3/18/12
W contacted mediator for D:3/27/12
Separate since bomb
Mediation, signed agreement 5/17/12
No talk of D since mediation