i believe we all do the best we can with what we know and where we are at the moment (how can i admit that when i keep asking my W for what she can not give me now?!?)
you were not able to see a way out then, you were not ready too. perhaps you were scared too. i know fear fuels all of my distancing behaviours in relationships.
the compassion you show for your H and for all of us, i hope you shower yourself with it.
i use regret as another way to avoid the sadness, i obsess/plan/read/figure it out/blame myself.... instead of just being sad...
an analogy (or metaphor?) that I like compares feelings to waves. If we brace yourself against a wave it will crash down on you, if you float with it, it will pass through you..
my IC told me to let it out (cry, scream, tantrum, beat the floor) and then after awhile, do something nice to take care of myself.
big hugs to you today. ((( )))
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
