H says ready to work on relationship, now what?

[Some Day]

Thanks, tinker. Dbing is so stuff. It's so easy to get discouraged and give up. Right now I've been feeling a little stuck. Yes, there has been progress. But, also I see that there is so much work to do. It seems daunting at times.

One of the things that I see needs to change is the openness and transparency in our marriage. H tends to keep things from me (good or bad). For example, he has a female friend who emailed him to "catch up". He emailed her that he would call her this week to update her on the latest happenings. I'm pretty sure their friendship has not been sexual, but I am still bothered by it. I have been waiting a couple of days to see if he does the right thing and tells me about the contact. If not, I will ask him about it (he knows I can access his email). I wish he would tell me and me open about it. I guess old habits die hard.