I feel ya. I am in the same boat. I fixed things and now there kind of a mess again. However, i look at your post and there seems to be hope in everything your saying. You just need to figure out the right piece of the puzzle to fix your marriage.
M:33 W:32 Married 10/28/07 C: B13 G10 (Both from different relationships) 12/30/09 Bomb Divorce Busted 2/04/10 5/15/12 Bomb 2