Long time no see. I used this program and fixed my marriage two years ago. We got our lives back on track and i fixed all the issues she was having with me in the marriage. I worked really hard and after a couple of month we gave it another go and things for the most part were pretty good.
Recently, however my wife's friend started having marital issues and for some reason this has caused us issues. It started with my wife no longer being sexually interested in me, She started going out on friday night and then a lead to us on Sunday morning getting to a point were she wants it to end. She says nothing has changed in the last two years for her. She said i have done everything in my power its not me. I am a great husband. She just doesn't feel that way about me.
So, now i dont know what to do. Should i move forward with a divorce? Should i keep fighting? Should i move out? I am currently sleeping on the couch and she keeps asking me to come to bed with her. (I have some neck problems...she is saying she doesnt want to hurt my neck) Should i do that? Is that a good first step. This time is very different for me then last time. Last time, i was so willing and motives to changes and fix thing. This time i am just so hurt and broken. I am so angry. I cant keep myself from saying things like. "Its going to be your house." "Does this make you happy." I am struggling to be that support man who loves her and wants to help her. I am just so angry and want her to realize she is throwing this all away. I cant understand why she doesn't value our relationship.
Here is a couple more pieces of insight.
1) I think that were i failed last time is when we fixed stuff. I didnt cement myself into her future. She doesnt see a future with me and i think that is one of the major issues.
2) Looking back on our debate yesterday. I think i am pushing the divorce more. I think i was trying to get her to admit she still wanted to try and it backfired. Now i am in a weird spot.
3)I am a friggen mess right now. I cant eat and i cant sleep.
Anyone with any insight that would be helpful. I do want to save my marriage but i dont know how. The book doesnt really help me here or maybe im not looking in the right place. If you need more information. I will gladly give some.
Travis
M:33 W:32 Married 10/28/07 C: B13 G10 (Both from different relationships) 12/30/09 Bomb Divorce Busted 2/04/10 5/15/12 Bomb 2
