IB there you go...silver lining. Perhaps that relationship would never have gotten that close otherwise. Focus on the benefits of the suffering instead of the detriments. Glad to hear you had a good day with your kids.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying