Just had a huge AHA moment while reading "How to Improve your Marriage Without Talking About It". There is a page that lists what depression can look like in men. My H has so many of these behaviors, including a family history on both sides. I guess I always thought of depression as like the commercials- a dark room with the shades drawn, sleeping all day.
That book is literally filled with AHA moments for me. Great resource, glad to hear it is helping you!