Rock on! Glad you finally started your own thread where we can learn all about you. Your company on my thread has always been welcome... now I'm going to look forward to coming to visit you in your place.
You know I don't need to say this, but I will. Your baby steps should speak for themselves.
Remember: you didn't get this way quickly, so you're not coming out of it quickly either. Patience, friend. Lots of it.
I think you guys are just guilty of what lots of us here are: withholding and guarding ourselves fully to protect our hearts. You realize that what it does is build a great big, stone wall in between you. That wall is what prevents either one of you from committing fully and allowing intimacy and healing.
So what are your goals to help knock that damned thing down?
This is not a 2x4, Pamela. God knows, I'm still hacking away at ours with a butter knife... one day, I'm going to hit a really soft spot in the mortar and some bricks are gonna fall...
Pamela, working at being friends is a wonderful start. Being friends is the best possible foundation for you. So, would you agonize your day away if a friend left without calling? My bet is he was preoccupied with something... and think if you're patient and not initiating that discussion, he will tell you later.
Patience!!! (And hugs, of course)
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
