KD, I haven't developed the thick skin that I need when dealing with my H. He isn't always spewing, but just communicating with him brings the pain of rejection to the surface. I really want to get to the point where I am mostly unphased by him. I want his interactions with me to be pleasant and demonstrate the changes that I've made. I can do it some days, but not when I'm feeling sad, lonely or angry. I really admire those on this board who can hide their feeling and act "as if" when communicating with their WS. The best I've been able to do is set boundries and block him from contacting me which actually might be interpreted as hiding by my H. I may need to rethink that as I evolve during this process. My H did mention to our son that it's hard for him to contact me since he's blocked. He's still obsessing over the house refi and that's been his only real reason for communication. Of course, he can call on the home phone, but he doesn't seem to have the courage to do it.
