BTW I want everyone who is holding me up right now to know that I very well enderstand that you each have gone through your own personel crisis with this to be able to stand so firm and give such great advise.
I am going to start working out at night again. So my H can't keep trapping with his sweet watch TV together and just pretend like all well crap. I prefer morning workouts, but think I should do as much as I can in the house while he is at work, then leave when he comes home.
We had the grandkids until well into the evening yesterday. My DIL got off work about 5 hours later than she planned. Darn silly people taking their mom's out to dinner! And my H was holding the younger girl (Almost 3, but a tiny little thing). She took her nap on him.
I must have seen him kiss her on the head 30 times! I know he is thinking long and deep about where we are headed. And I am just keeping my mouth shut. Like one of you said, sit quietly and the answers will come.
I don't see us getting back together, but do see him having moments when he just has to be thinking about how we got to where we are. The other day he was holding our youngest dog and standing out by the pool looking at our most amazing view.
Deep in thought...... Anyway, I just need to keep staying away as much as I can. Because when he does talk R talk to me he really blames everything on me. And I know I have my part. But he has his part, too.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!