"One is to continue to be a doormat, let her have almost everything she wants, give loads of space, and employ squirrel-taming techniques to slowly lure her back into considering continuing or M."
Why the hell do you think you're being a "doormat". Listen, you made a choice which in itself is empowering. The doormat mentality is just a state of mind. You give her loads of space and what she wants because you WANT to. If you don't, then don't. She doesn't see you as a doormat. She just chooses not to see you at all. As much as you choose to get her attention.
If you're going to do things to ease things at home, there's nothing wrong with that. You just don't go out of your way to do so. You allow your W to make you feel the way you do. There is no such thing as a "doormat". You made a choice based on your values, convictions, whatever. Take strength in that.
However, if you consider to see yourself, again SEE YOURSELF as a doormat, then you will do nothing but gain resentment in the end towards your W.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
