and not about any expectations of our presence in the experience of others...
So when we have a complaint about OUR life... we express it from OUR perspective simply as a statement...
When you wrote your letter (there was more, wasn't there) it was to be from your experience with no expectations regarding your W's reaction to it... of course, that wasn't quite the case, was it...?
Your W's letter SHOULD have been written from her experience, with no expectations of how it would affect you and what your reaction might be...
So do your very best to consider that and act accordingly...
It is very possible that your W is expecting you to react by going back into pursuit mode...
or... she may be expecting you to not react...
I think she's expecting the former... but that's irrelevant...
honour her letter as something she wanted to express... nothing more... nothing less... and she's not hoping that you are going to smother her, again...
