So this is where it should come from as no surprise that I had an alcoholic father who often broke promises then got sober and regained my trust. I know he would be there for me in a heartbeat.
I'm really glad you've chosen to work with me!
I have ordered LL and I read the website. From the test on there mine is Quality Time and Words of Affirmation. I know in giving love I like to give gifts. I love finding the perfect thing, something really unique that will blow people away. He HATES getting gifts.
I am going to change that dynamic because I don't want to be someone who puts demands or tests on whoever I'm in a relationship with. I have told him this but I have to exercise it.
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It was a double bind. That's what the above is... he wanted to show his love for you... and then you denied it... he was damned if he didn't... and damned if he did...
hmmm he wanted to show his love for me but not really have to do that errand. I couldn't just leave well enough alone.
Then he wanted to do the errand but not get all the hassle from outside influences. So I took the opportunity for him to either stand up to those people or stand up to me off the table. I guess that was the double bind. He's left feeling like he disappointed me. Perhaps I should have left the decision up to him. Let him stick by his choices/commitments/decisions or say no to someone.
So what do I call my new thread...have a feeling I'm gonna get locked soon!
