I've questioned many times whether he's in MLC. Due to family history, triggers, personality, the way he fled and what he's said I would conclude that he is, but there are days where I carry the burden of his actions and change my mind, thinking I drove him away.
This is important...
My time on the board... I don't know how recent this is, but there's been a change (that was occurring before I joined) that the LBS steer clear of jumping on the MLC wagon...
Because when we label our WAS as MLC... an LBS can and sometimes does put the entire "blame" of the sitch on the MLC...
And the LBS doesn't do the work that... MLC or not... is necessary...
DO THE WORK that is necessary... as though your H is a WAS...
and IF your H is MLC... then just realize that the work you do now... just MIGHT have positive results in the future...
If your H comes out of the tunnel and finds you are the same person he left... well, their empathy chip IS broken... and they do live portions of their lives in a fog... but they DO remember stuff that happened during the sitch... that's been reported by MLCers after the fact, quite often...
If you are not the best woman you can be, that only a fool would leave, when he comes out of the tunnel...
Then... why would he choose to stay... once he has his rational mind back..?
