Not new, but starting over again

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I started a thread earlier this morning, wasn't exactly thinking clearly, so I'm trying again with a new thread.

This is a re-visit from previous seperation, divorce, divorce busting, re-marriage, seperation, re-uniting again, now another bomb dropped.....WAW planning to move out again.

I have run the gamut. Seperated 9 years ago as wife was having em affair, I did all the wrong things....pleading, begging, you name it. Finally detached and use DB techniques, mostly for my own sanity. Re-united, re-married, seperated again after 2 years. She kept saying she knew she needed to come home, same stuff on my part, mistakes at first, then DB techniques, then she came home again. We've had some great times since her return but life keeps getting in the way....kids, finances, aging parents, job related stress, you name it.

When I made a committment to marriage, I meant it for life, for better or for worst. I guess I need to just move on now, still love her and she says she still loves me, but she wants to stand on her own two feet. Sometimes think we have come too far to give up. I know if I go distant, she will drag me back in again. Kids will be devastated again is the toughest part for me. We both have made mistakes, but I truly don't think the feeling is gone, still too much there. I suspect some kind of affair, maybe not physical, but emotional.

Need prayers and thoughtful advice.