Hi Vera, thanks for the post - had a look at your sitch and I can definitely see similarities, though you are doing so much better than I ever did!
Feeling pretty foolish today. Especially when I look back at the start of this post. I came back to my house last night. I really wanted to stick it out but he began losing his temper and hitting the walls - didn't want to be around that.
He was crying when I left. Said he didn't want to do this to me again, but the thought of me being with someone else doesnt upset him the way it should. What have I learnt: it is so easy to slide backwards once you start making headway. I moved back way to soon and with no discussion between us about what would be different. I feel that the damage is now perhaps irrevocable - its just emphasised to him that I'm really not what he wants.
