hmmmmm so here's the skinny.

I texted him about some "housekeeping" things joint bills we pay and he called me. He never calls...always prefers text! He referred to me by a pet name and said just seemed easier to call.

We chatted about all the bills stuff.

He asked about my health.

He told me he'd picked up a few dining chairs for me that he'd seen someone giving away because he knew I wanted some. (back when he moved into his own place friends were throwing furniture etc at him and I said hey if anyone offers you dining chairs. but that was months ago)He said if you don't want them I can toss em, but right now they're waiting for me to deliver them to you.

Then I told him "Listen do you want me just to leave that whole ebay item thing alone? I didn't know if you were really up for doing that or if you only agreed because you felt bad and didn't really want to go. And I'm not trying to make you do anything you don't want to do"

He said yeah, I mainly said yes because I felt bad. I hate to see you begging for someone to help when I can.

I said I wasn't begging...I honestly just thought someone might be up for it.

He said to be honest borrowing my mother's truck to drive 100 miles and pick up a piece of furniture for you will be a political nightmare on my end...but at the same time it seems a shame to pass it up.

I said I don't want to cause any trouble for you....with anyone in your life ...but I do really want it. haha

(v. strange dance we're playing here...does he mean his mom? not very likely she and I get along great. But it's possible that she may think he does too much for me. As a mom she might be looking out for him. Does he mean GF? most likely. I sure as hell would think it strange if my BF was doing this for the woman he's separated from)
he said well then leave it or I guess see what the seller says

So we left it at that.

I have wondered as GREENBLUE mentioned how GF feels about our involvement. I don't know how much he tells her. I don't want to be the subject of their arguments. I don't want to be something that prevents him from anything in his life. I also don't want to be the catalyst where he has to say "no, I want to be with you GF. I'll stop doing this and that. I don't want that." I've said before if I met a man who had been separated for 4 months and I was the first person he'd been on a date with I'd run a mile...I wouldn't become his GF.